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Books
On Eggshells and Through Minefields is for anyone who has been through a trauma and found their lives profoundly changed, but most importantly it explores the psychological impact upon intimate relationships. The title reflects how loved ones, particularly the partners and children, often live their lives – treading warily and afraid that one wrong step may cause their whole world to fracture and crumble. Or alternatively like waiting for something to explode and blow apart all they love.
A brilliant new guide to living a happier life (even if it’s not so perfect) Tal Ben-Shahar knows about the burden of perfection. As professor of the most popular course in Harvard’s history, he has seen the best and the brightest buckle under the pressure.
Always emphasizing how much an individual’s happiness is within his or her control, Lyubomirsky addresses the scientific how of her happiness research, and provides a powerful contribution to the field of positive psychology.
What if almost everything we believed about finding happiness turned out to be inaccurate, misleading, or false? And what if those very beliefs were making us miserable? What if our efforts to find happiness were actually preventing it?
The 20th Anniversary edition of The Dance of Anger, with a new introduction by the author, celebrates the renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view their relationships.
‘Most men don’t have a life’ is the dramatic opening to Steve Biddulph’s bestseller Manhood. Exploring two critical social issues: establishing a healthy masculinity and how men can release themselves from suffocating and outdated social moulds.
Love is the most “natural” thing in the world. Yet we make and break relationships routinely, often without understanding why. Unravelling the desire for rewarding relationships, we must start with ourselves. Stephanie Dowrick offers a penetrating insight into how we can feel crowded in a relationship and yet miserable when alone. She reveals the underlying basis of many paradoxes of human relationships.
“Tell me how a person judges his or her self-esteem,” says pioneering psychologist Nathaniel Branden, “and I will tell you how that person operates at work, in love, in sex, in parenting, and in every important aspect of existence.
Through vivid examples, Goleman delineates the five crucial skills of emotional intelligence, and shows how they determine our success in relationships, work, and even our physical well-being. What emerges is an entirely new way to talk about being smart. The best news is that “emotional literacy” is not fixed early in life. Every parent, every teacher, every business leader, and everyone interested in a more civil society, has a stake in this compelling vision of human possibility.
Argues that happiness can be a learned and cultivated behavior, explaining how every person possesses at least five of twenty-four profiled strengths that can be built on in order to improve life.
Originally published in 1988, GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT has helped thousands of couples attain more loving, supportive and deeply satisfying relationships. In this groundbreaking book, Dr Harville Hendrix shares with you what he has learned about the psychology of love during more than thirty years of working as a therapist and helps you transform your relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship.
Confronting and solving problems is a painful process, which most of us attempt to avoid. Avoiding resolution results in greater pain and an inability to grow both mentally and spiritually. Drawing heavily on his own professional experience, Dr M. Scott Peck, a psychiatrist, suggests ways in which facing our difficulties – and suffering through the changes – can enable us to reach a higher level of self-understanding.
Draws on the author’s own experiences as a young conscript to look back at life before, during and after the Vietnam War. The result is a sympathetic vision of a group of young men who were sent off to war completely unprepared for the impact it would have on them.
This title describes 24 strengths and virtues which each person can develop to their maximum potential. It provides a variety of tests and assessment tools to enable readers to discover and deploy those strengths at home and in the home.
Popular ideas about happiness are misleading, inaccurate, and are directly contributing to our current epidemic of stress, anxiety and depression. And unfortunately, popular psychological approaches are making it even worse. In this controversial, but empowering self-help book, Dr Russ Harries, reveals how millions of people are unwittingly caught in the ‘The Happiness Trap’, where the more they strive for happiness the more they suffer in the long term.
Dr. Gottman’s famed “love lab” can predict with more than 90 percent accuracy whether a married couple will stay together or eventually divorce. This audiobook puts tools into readers’ hands to build back the sense of affection and romance lost through years of negative communication.
According to most relationship books, the key to a solid marriage is communication, communication and more communication.
Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman. While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each one. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their “love tank.” Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Chapman illustrates each love language with real-life examples from his counseling practice.
Links
- Psychodrama Institute Melbourne
- Australian Psychological Society
- Psychotherapy in Australia
- Beyond blue
- Department of Veteran Affairs
- Aust Centre Post Trauma Research
- Relationships Australia
- Living Now
- Authentic Happiness
- Black Dog Institute
- ACT Mindfully
- The Psychologist
- Good Therapy
- Penn University Positive Psychology
- APS Psychologists Referral Service
- Counselling Access